To me there seems two converging authoritarian forces, we might see them as Huxleyan, and Orwellian.

The authoritarian force you seem most opposed to looks like the Orwellian, the force of the state.

Whereas Husleyan authoritarianism represents the power of "Big business".

Maybe unconsciously, you are using classically Huxleyan techniques, to try to oppose the authoritarianism that you clearly see.

To me, both are equally bad, and both come from the same root cause, the requirement for competition between all humans, to survive in "The rat race".

I agree with you, where I think you are saying there was a time when no-one cared about anyone else's sexuality, and those were much better days. We can see the same carefree mindsets about sex in places like Cuba, where all things are celebrated equally, none receiving any particular attention, all people see one another as equally valuable, in general.

But now, in the "developed world" gender, and sexuality have become things being used for political and financial gain, in every way we can imagine, it has become a minefield for all relationships, not many actually surviving, to be honest. For kids, they can only feel a sense of bewilderment, at the future awaiting them (I have a 19 year old daughter)), we talk a lot.

To me, working on the global energy problem, not for profit, after thirty years as an accomplished Systems Engineer, the stakeholder analysis helps clarify something driving all individuals, all the more sharply now that scarcity of extracted energy is ramping up to an inevitable dead-end. More and more pressure is being put on kids to respond in whatever ways they think they have to, in order to stand a reasonable chance of competing.

It is the drive for profit.

This is systemically connected with money-as-debt, and the requirement for everyone to compete for a living, and the requirement for us to get all of our energy by extraction.

Get rid of that, as we appear to be doing by adopting the energy of the sun, and all is fixed, it seems to me.

We will very soon no longer need to compete with one another, no-one will care what sexuality or gender anyone is. With no need to compete, why would we care?

On the connection with religion, perhaps a connection with religion helps to see this. I was christened "protestant", but actually have as much regard now for all religions, as any other, after a long period in my life being atheist.

I disagree with your deduction that integrating our culture and world-view with nature results in anything bad, in fact I would argue the opposite.

If you think nature stops at our front door, this view looks to me like the problem, standing in the way of us accepting that the sun can, and will power all of humanity, even to relatively unlimited growth. The closed mindset of capitalism looks like the one closed to me, and actually is the only thing currently preventing the outcome of actual physical Energyism, everything going free, not only sexuality / gender, but everything we can think of, it seems to me.