The Kids are Alright
Why we need to listen more to what our children say, and why they must not be used.
A subject I’ve never seen much research on, but often had thoughts on, is how most of us seem to have experienced a change in taste of food, amongst other things, since we were younger.
In my case, and probably many others; spicy and strongly tasted things.
Mustard, chilli, pepper, garlic, onion, blue cheese, radish, ginger, and smoked fish were all on my long list of things really not liked.
Now I love it. All of it.
No matter how hot and spicy, or strongly tasted, bring it on.
Another thing is pain.
What we might have perceived as physical pain when we were younger, we might now feel as pleasure.
Probably best not to go into examples there.
Well OK, just one.
How about nose waxing?
Whoa. By no means could it ever be interpreted as pleasure, unless one might be a very extreme individual.
But it is survivable. Imagine trying to do that to yourself as a kid, or even as a teenager? I know I would probably have died of shock if I’d tried it.
But now I can do it. It is bearable.
So it seems that the nerves in the body undergo some changes to sensitivity.
If true, it follows that dying is more painful for young people than old.
What about when someone close to a child dies? Do those feelings of deep grief also have a lasting effect?
Of course they do.
All experiences and sensations throughout life, both physical and mental, change the way we feel things, in some way or another.
So children are incredibly sensitive creatures, fully sensitive to our environment.
Much more sensitive than us adults.
Which is why we need to listen to them.
And to look after them.
What shocks a kid is something truly shocking.
We need to remember that.
Most of all we need to be aware what drives their angst, one way or another, from all directions.
The profit monster.