I get why you might feel you already did your share of motherhood looking after younger siblings, must have been difficult. I was an only child, most of the time, and I was a boy, so no relevant experience there.
What I meant by adding value isn't because I expect anything in particular from my daughter, it's just knowing that after we move from monetised destruction (profit), to monetised creation (solar indexed stimulus), everyone will be adding value by just existing, and we will be rewarded for that, and then we will need to truly add population to provide maximum benefit to the planet, like a plant grows to thousands of times it's size after it first forms leaves.
Hence why all the talk of degrowth, reductionism etc annoys me, I swear it's closely related to our toleration of genocide, and our eagerness to go to war, knowing that a nuclear war would destroy the planet, given the planet has already been weakened by thousands of years of monetised destruction, reductionism is what the deadly destroying live system wants, it wants us to reduce and we are obliging by conditioning and preparing everyone for it.
I admit she doesn't like me talking about this to her, it's a sore point she is facing a life of debt as stands, and is already having to grapple with a much tougher future than her mother and I had when we were younger.
But I don't think she would ever say as an adult she wished she wasn't born, she is still grateful to us for making her exist, am happy to say, tho her mum and I split when she was six, she still gets full access and love from us both. We both know that if life blows up for her economically, she might be back home with one or the other of us, before she gets fully settled.
On when the required change happens, it looks like complete economic system collapse is required for those in power of issue of money to lose their grip.
They surely know the energy analysis now, which says the real physical reason money is devaluing, no amount of interest rate changes, or war, can change that overall trend, money is right now devaluing to zero, until the only thing that can be done is done - issue of solar indexed stimulus.
So it could be tomorrow, it could be in ten years or even more. All we can say is it's accelerating, but the more they try to stop it, the faster it accelerates, to now it's more or less impossible to even plan build of a nuclear power station, given that takes seven years.
Btw I should add my daughter is twenty one now, her birthday was this month, my brain slow to update that.