Brilliant story Lannie, thanks for posting, great to see you asking the right questions.
But a question not asked, that might be preventing seeing some answers, is why anyone feels the need to state preferred pronouns.
I know it seems unrelated, but if we think about it, we are generally all prone to misinformation, that is propaganda, to some extent.
We are programmed that way for survival in an earlier history, it seems to me.
Expressing preferred pronouns looks like an advertisement of our programming, our susceptibility to being influenced by "The current thing". I hope you don't take that the wrong way, it isn't a criticism, just an observation of most folk :)
We have to question how much established science and society is correct, if it obviously isn't working, and even gets in the way of the solution, it seems to me, so I would ask more questions of human origins.
This was a story that opened my eyes a little today:
https://alainaeloftus.medium.com/ultraterrestrials-and-the-silurian-hypothesis-e951584b3d8a